What’s Your Pot of Gold?

I’ve mentioned in previous posts my plans to change my life in many ways. I’ve also mentioned my goal to move in about 10 years time to somewhere with a moderate climate, possibly the south of France although I’m considering several options.

Last night I got into a heated argument with a very dear friend about the idea of moving in 10 yrs time. He feels the idea is unreachable, illogical, too expensive and I will live to regret it. He’s not normally a negative sort of person so his arguments against moving really bothered me.

It’s become clear that he and I have a very different attitude toward the future. When I said that I’d rather live in a 500 sq. ft cottage in a small village, with a small garden (preferably within walking distance of a vineyard & a library) rather than live in a 4000 sq foot house with a big screen tv in every room and a new car in the driveway he stated very clearly he’d take the big house, tv, car, etc.

I have a pretty clear picture in my head of how I want my life to be in 10 years time. I know that my picture isn’t to everyone’s taste but what I find very interesting is that when I ask most people what their dream life is, they usually can’t give me a clear answer.

What’s the pot of gold for you? What are you working towards? When do you plan to retire? We work hard. We save. We invest. We worry about our portfolios and our retirement savings. We spend hours with our financial planners and run our spreadsheets and worry will we have enough. But what is enough? What’s your goal?

If you want the big house, the car, the cottage and the sailboat that’s great! Do it! If you want to travel the world and stay in only 5 star resorts, do it!

I’m just wondering when did we all stop dreaming about that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?

Comments

  1. My Dreams: To travel the world, writing as I go, a place to settle for a few months at a time, short visits to friends and family, and then off again to a new destination. Hopefully some of my friends and family will come with me on some of those journeys, others I already know will done alone (barring meeting Mr. Right and dragging him along).

    Maybe I’ll come winter with you in the South of France now and then.

  2. Nice post! Great way to start the week. We should always have this goal in mind. Every decision and move we make should contribute to that pot of gold (goal), or at the very least not derail you too much.

    Mine have changed radically with the birth of each child (I said “Check Please” after three!). Still, my pot of gold would be to live in the Italian countryside of my birthplace. My brothers and I own a house near venice in a quaint town in wine country known as “la citta del vino” which means the city of wine. I spent an entire winter there in my 20s and wrote a novel while over-looking the gorgeous Tuscan countryside. Images of “Under the Tuscan Sun” still parade in my mind as I daydream of my pot of gold.

    Still, I don’t think that will happen for a long time because I was blessed with children later in life (they are 9, 5 and 2). Thus, they are my gold and my future. I want to be near them always. Sure, I will keep pursuing my own personal dreams and desires, but my bliss will always be centered around those three forever.

    Ultimately, I will find a way to satisfy all of our dreams and pots of gold. Maybe travel to venice more often with them their families?

    Thanks for the wonderful food for thought!

    Pai

  3. What I am finding, especially recently, is that over time, that pot of gold changes. Things that you thought were important, change, and all of a sudden…there you are…looking for a new pot of gold, because in reality you either landed the original pot of gold, and it was just meh, or it was way better than you had originally thought and you’re hungry for more.

    That all being said, I guess I’m still looking for mine. :)

  4. That’s the fun thing about “Pots of Gold” – they’re always changing.

    I went through a long stretch of time over the past 10 years when I didn’t have any goals or dreams. How sad is it that when someone asks you what your dreams are you don’t have an answer.

    As Paisano points out in his comment the Pot is constantly changing as your life does. Relationships, children, experience all change our outlooks daily.

    I think it’s important to sit down once a year (once a month preferably) and really look at what your Pot of Gold is right now.

  5. My pot of gold is just calm. No family drama, no crazy life, just peace.

    Quiet happiness is what I hope for :)

  6. I like that idea. A monthly pot o’ gold examination. Hmmm.
    Maybe we can do that the same time we update our F* it list!
    That sucker gets filled up really fast!

    Pai

  7. All I want is an art studio, an internet connection, a full pantry and a house full of people I love and love me back. I have never been one for material possessions, a car is a means of conveyance it doesn’t need to be fancy it needs to run and be practical for my life, a house is only a box to keep my stuff dry if it rains. What really matters is the love in your life without that everything else is hollow and will never bring you happiness. My pot of gold is priceless because it is contained within the hearts of my family and friends.

    I thank God a part of my pot of gold rests within you, Merl.

  8. Awww, Jill you just made my day.

  9. South of France huh? I’m sorry anytime anyone ever says anything about the south of France all I can think of is.

    http://img293.imageshack.us/img293/2212/coneheads23mz.jpg

    Hey reminds me we are off to consume mass quantities. Taking the kids to their first all you can eat Sushi experience.

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